I sat- I bit the HELL out of my lip- and I mean this.
I’m sitting in the Wilkes library- coincidentally enough commenting on blogs in the Freshr’ Ink blogspot and I can’t help AT ALL but become distracted by this guy and girl sitting across from me.
For the first hour I was there it was no problem- I hardly noticed them besides the fact that I know this girl chills with some of the girls I kind-of know around campus (I don’t know many people around this place) and that I had her in a class at one point.
Regardless- as I sat there her guy-friend (appearing to be her boyfriend) said, “I have to leave.” She said okay I’ll pack up and leave but I need to save my work.” He handed her his flash drive and she started to go about whatever she was doing.
As soon as she started wrapping up- he STARTED poking on her keyboard, laughing. At first she laughed. He kept doing it. She laughed. He started forcibly poking her. She stopped laughing. He started pushing her fore-head with his pointer finger- each time BREAKING HER DOWN. She lost her smile. He poked at her keyboard BECAUSE HE FELT HE COULD, and she asked him to stop.
He took her water and started POURING IT ON HER HEAD- BECAUSE HE FELT HE COULD. She got upset. And I could tell she felt bullied. She said “STOP.” And he started poking the keyboard again. Then HE started shoving HER arms away from the keyboard.
With water down her face, covering her shirt, face, and hair, she looked like she wanted to cry. He reached over, pushed her back and said, “Fine- give me the drive back,” and pushed her back and ripped it out of the computer.
At this point I moved my headphones back and gave him the best “STOP IT. YOU ASSHOLE.” eye contact I could manage. And he did what any abusive man (Man?) is very, VERY good at doing. HE pulled her right back in and turned it into a big joke. It’s sad that he has that POWER over her.
She looked lost. She was embarrassed. And why? Because this immature asshole thinks he can do whatever he wants? I know I don’t know these people. And they have their “own little thing” going on but this situation JUST FELT WRONG.
I could say something like “Ladies- look out for this kind of thing” or some cheesy line like that. But that’s not what this blog post is. First of all it helped me get this off of my mind a little bit. AND I want feedback on what other people think should be done in a situation like this. And lastly it offers a different perspective for those that may be blinded by this type of “relationship”(I use the term loosely).
If you can’t look at you partner and say “GROW UP,” or feel like you might need to, you could be in an abusive relationship that lacks respect. The reason these relationships go on so long is because the person (man or woman) that is disrespected, can’t figure out WHY they can’t get the respect from someone they are so very interested in.
Seriously- who cares if they don’t respect you if they don’t deserve respect themselves? GO for a walk, go online, look around there are millions of people around you every day. This one asshole IS NOT worth your time. And if anything is true- it’s that you won’t be “happy” for long, and the “relationship” is DOOMED in more than one way. If they treat you this way today, they will for the rest of your life. The only person they are going to change for- is someone else after YOU stand up for yourself get that negative person out of your life.
Communication Studies
Wilkes 2011
