It had been more than two weeks since I last saw the video on one of the UCLA student showing her hatred toward Asian people. And I am Asian. So I couldn’t help but have her voice clearly repeating in my mind. I will not even try to “recap” what she said to critique if she was right or wrong because thousands of people already made videos to respond to it.
And you as the reader can decide about it. I tried to forget about it since I know for the fact that not everyone is the same. But I can’t bring myself to believe she is the only one who feels that way.
So, how many other people out there feel the same way as her toward Asian or any other ethnic group in general? That question kept coming up in my mind almost every time now when I stand in front of an American.
“Am I talking too loud?”
“May I pick up my parents’ calls in case of an emergency at home?”
“How am I going to speak English with my parents in front of Americans when my parents hardly understand it?”
“How should we as a “horde” of Asians learn American manners? What are the differences between American and Asian manners when I know for sure my parents taught me to be kind and respectul toward others even though they are not from the same background?”
For the last seven years I tried to create a beautiful image of the generous American society and I made myself believe that it was real.
It took such a long period of time for the beautiful Miyako City in Japan to be created; but within seconds, the whole masterpiece just swept away by the massive thoughtless tsunami. Just like that, this young lady destroyed my dream about the generous American society by her words, simple but hurtful! Not to mention that her words actually came back to bit her in the back. I dare not to speak of her name because I am afraid that I would have a very bad impression on the people with the same name for the rest of my life.
Yes, she is young. Yes, everyone makes mistakes at least once in the life time. Yes, everyone deserve the second chance and to be forgiven. But can she be forgiven if her apology toward people who she hurt did not come out from her mouth with any sincerity? The second chance can only be offered if the person with the mistakes sincerely asked for it and seriously proved that they deserve it!...
Quyen Nguyen
Communication Studies
Wilkes 2012